My childrens grandmother (paternal) died unexpectedly on Sunday....Breast Cancer metastases to Liver...very quick.
I know she disliked me even more than I her...so its sad, but no great grieving on my part. For 10 yrs she would not speak or make eye contact with me..so I gave up
Ex of course is rocked to the core
The children are ok, I suppose a little bemused that they wont see their grandma again even though they only saw her once or twice a year...I guess kids like knowing people are just there...After some consideration I have decided I will take the children to the funeral, because I think it will help them with a sense of closure on Grandmas death and also connect them a little more to their paternal family who they see precious little of.
Ex WANTs them at the funeral, but doesn't want to be responsible for them as he will be upset...so wants me to be there too to make sure they are ok. He wants me and them to join the cortege and family mourners..which I'm a little
about. Personally, its no secret that ex MIL and I hadn't spoken for 10yrs...it just seems a little fake that I would be in the line up...but whatever, I'll just do as I am told..
All in all - its all a little odd! suddenly we are "family" again...and it feels a bit yeurk.
suddenly he is ringing me every day to chat/lean on shoulder - like we were friends
is he making me his replacement mummy?
As the funeral is in Cornwall it will be a 2-3 day trip. I am taking elastoplast so I can
Will I manage that long without expressing an opinion??
Its as if once you have children your ex (and his family) are never truly, fully "ex". There is alway a bind. I sure hope these children one day appreciate the tight rope I continue to walk for them...
Oh, and she has left them a few bob each - so thats nice................
..currently looking for pink clothes to wear to the funeral (as instructed - its a Breast Cancer funeral...odder and odder, a funeral in pink....as if being in the "bosum" of my ex family wasn't odd enough).