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Offline northstar

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A NRP's right to be informed?
« on: March 18, 2018, 11:57:37 PM »
Hello there

I wonder if someone could offer me some advice please. I have been separated for nearly four years. During that time, the children's father has seen them a handful of times, the last being in the summer of 2016. Control has always been a big issue for him - telling me that I have to tell him whenever I take the children anywhere or do anything.

Our daughter, aged 10, has chosen to be baptised. I was not christened and neither were any of the children. They go to a C of E school and we attend a church service two or three times a month, mainly to combat loneliness and to widen the children's social circle.

The ex and I agreed that when the children were old enough they could choose for themselves if they wanted to be baptised. My feeling is that if we informed her father, he would try and prevent it for no better reason than to exercise his control. This could permanently damage any chance he might have of building a relationship with her in the future. However, I don't want this to blow up into a big thing after the fact if he finds out, which there is every chance he may do.

This is giving me sleepless nights :( Could anyone offer me advice please?

Many thanks
Alex

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Re: A NRP's right to be informed?
« Reply #1 on: March 19, 2018, 04:48:34 AM »
I am not sure what the legal answer is.
But I would inform him, he still has perental responsibilities right? He should know of any religious, health, and education choices made.
How could he prevent it anyway? He doesn’t see the child. The church is hardly likely to listen to him, and could he really get an injunction? Maybe he would try to talk her out of it but.... she’s 10. If she is half as stubborn as my 9 year old, he still wouldn’t change her mind.
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Re: A NRP's right to be informed?
« Reply #2 on: March 19, 2018, 07:10:24 AM »
Hi Ms_wormward, and thanks for your reply.

What you say makes sense, I am just concerned that he will try and stop it. Or he will want to know a time and place and then turn up and make a scene. He did similar when I was viewing secondary schools with my eldest - I informed him of the open evenings and he turned up drunk to one and it was highly unpleasant.

If he were to seek an injunction (would this be through a specifics issue order?) then would a judge be likely to grant it, do you think? The church have said that as long as they have the consent of one parent with PR, this is enough for them.

You're right, I doubt that she would change her mind about this issue and has done plenty of reading up about it. She has approached it in a very mature way and that makes me proud :)

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Re: A NRP's right to be informed?
« Reply #3 on: March 22, 2018, 04:34:25 AM »
Like I say, I am not a lawyer, so have no idea, but I should think a judge wouldn’t care, it’s not like she is entering a nunnery.
I never really understand parents that don’t have the time to see their kids but have to time to interfere with their lifes.
Stop worrying about him, and just concentrate on your daughter. Let hm know she is doing it, but maybe not where.
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