I wonder if someone could offer me some advice please. I have been separated for nearly four years. During that time, the children's father has seen them a handful of times, the last being in the summer of 2016. Control has always been a big issue for him - telling me that I have to tell him whenever I take the children anywhere or do anything.
Our daughter, aged 10, has chosen to be baptised. I was not christened and neither were any of the children. They go to a C of E school and we attend a church service two or three times a month, mainly to combat loneliness and to widen the children's social circle.
The ex and I agreed that when the children were old enough they could choose for themselves if they wanted to be baptised. My feeling is that if we informed her father, he would try and prevent it for no better reason than to exercise his control. This could permanently damage any chance he might have of building a relationship with her in the future. However, I don't want this to blow up into a big thing after the fact if he finds out, which there is every chance he may do.
This is giving me sleepless nights
Could anyone offer me advice please?