8 weeks ago my husband of 9 years left me.
He had found a house quickly, and moved out, saying he felt stressed out and needed a few weeks to sort himself out. He has some debt, and our middle child is very lively, there was a lot of stress and anger in the house. So I supported his decision as I could see how much 'pain' emotionally my husband was in.
I was 12 weeks pregnant at the time, and for the first few weeks I thought what he had told me was the truth. Slowly, he cut me off, stopped talking and texting me, he came to see the children (thankfully) and looks after them when I am working, but I realised over the course of those two months it was me he dumped, and that it had nothing to do with 'his pain' over our lifestyle together.
During this 8 weeks I turned my family home around, my children are happier (over all) except perhaps my 8 year old who is heart broken like me. He cries and is very clingy to me, which I find hard to handle with my own set of feelings controlling my every waking moment.
Because of the way my husband duped me into the separation there was never any chance for me to get angry or to ask him questions, I was just told what was happening and allowed it to happen.
Now I try to ask him questions and he avoids them or palms me off.
I really can't believe after 9 years, 3 children and 1 on the way my husband could do this to us all.