Welcome, Guest. Please login or register.
Did you miss your activation email?
 

Author Topic: Looking for positive vibes....feeling not at all positive!  (Read 9528 times)

0 Members and 1 Guest are viewing this topic.

Offline KS

  • newbie
  • *
  • Posts: 4
  • Gender: Female
Re: Looking for positive vibes....feeling not at all positive!
« Reply #40 on: June 22, 2016, 10:17:57 AM »

It's been six months for me and I have all of the same feelings as you including the dull ache.  So I hope it helps a tiny bit to know you aren't alone feeling how you do x

Offline JH73

  • SWK Member
  • newbie
  • *****
  • Posts: 28
  • Gender: Female
Re: Looking for positive vibes....feeling not at all positive!
« Reply #41 on: June 23, 2016, 07:45:02 PM »
thank you for your honesty KS-somehow I thought that after 6 months I'd be doing better. Hope things improve soon for you too x

Offline YvieB

  • SWK Member
  • newbie
  • *****
  • Posts: 28
  • Gender: Female
Re: Looking for positive vibes....feeling not at all positive!
« Reply #42 on: June 23, 2016, 11:06:48 PM »
Hiya - sent you an email did you get it?  Definitely on for 10th - Heaton Park is fine X

Offline JH73

  • SWK Member
  • newbie
  • *****
  • Posts: 28
  • Gender: Female
Re: Looking for positive vibes....feeling not at all positive!
« Reply #43 on: June 25, 2016, 11:58:45 AM »
Hi, I've sent you an email too yvieB but still not sure where to find the one you sent me! X

Offline YvieB

  • SWK Member
  • newbie
  • *****
  • Posts: 28
  • Gender: Female
Re: Looking for positive vibes....feeling not at all positive!
« Reply #44 on: June 26, 2016, 07:19:39 AM »
:-) When you are on the forum look above your profile where it says "Hello JH73".  There are a line of icons, one which is "my messages".  Have a look in there and let me know if it has arrived.

We will quality for for the Krypton Factor once we have cracked this :-) Looking forward to hearing from you and hope you are having a fab weekend xx

Offline WT4

  • Full Time Mummy
  • SWK Member
  • beyond all hope !
  • *****
  • Posts: 3,717
  • Gender: Male
  • There's Only One
Re: Looking for positive vibes....feeling not at all positive!
« Reply #45 on: June 29, 2016, 02:48:08 PM »
In the grand scheme of things, six months is no time at all.

Advice offered by the wise often includes: In the event of a life-changing thing, make no life changing decisions for at least 12 months.

You will get there, I promise.
Two things we give our children: roots & wings

Offline JH73

  • SWK Member
  • newbie
  • *****
  • Posts: 28
  • Gender: Female
Re: Looking for positive vibes....feeling not at all positive!
« Reply #46 on: June 29, 2016, 07:56:21 PM »
I'll hold you to that!  ;)

Offline WT4

  • Full Time Mummy
  • SWK Member
  • beyond all hope !
  • *****
  • Posts: 3,717
  • Gender: Male
  • There's Only One
Re: Looking for positive vibes....feeling not at all positive!
« Reply #47 on: June 29, 2016, 09:17:04 PM »
:)

One step at a time.
One day at a time.

Healing is important ... the world is full of failed rebound relationships.

Two things we give our children: roots & wings

Offline JH73

  • SWK Member
  • newbie
  • *****
  • Posts: 28
  • Gender: Female
Re: Looking for positive vibes....feeling not at all positive!
« Reply #48 on: July 07, 2016, 12:57:50 PM »
Ooh don't think I could cope with a relationship right now! 😬

Offline KS

  • newbie
  • *
  • Posts: 4
  • Gender: Female
Re: Looking for positive vibes....feeling not at all positive!
« Reply #49 on: July 08, 2016, 09:25:30 PM »

Thanks JH73.

I have noticed some changes recently.  A month or so ago my boys were at a (his) family do which for the first time I wasn't invited to.  Of course everything has changed and it was their weekend with him.  But even so I was upset, it hurt and their understandable questions about it made it worse.  Then a couple of weeks ago it happened again and it didn't feel as bad.  I felt better after I'd thought about it rationally.  So I'm assuming with time and perspective things will get easier.

All the best x

Offline JH73

  • SWK Member
  • newbie
  • *****
  • Posts: 28
  • Gender: Female
Re: Looking for positive vibes....feeling not at all positive!
« Reply #50 on: July 10, 2016, 07:36:12 PM »
Hey KS,

I know what you mean about feeling excluded. I was devastated the first time my daughter went for a family meal with my ex and his family-one I would normally have been at. Hopefully, like you, next time will be easier. Glad you are starting to feel better 😃
Baby steps.....xx

Offline LSkeld

  • newbie
  • *
  • Posts: 5
  • Gender: Female
Re: Looking for positive vibes....feeling not at all positive!
« Reply #51 on: February 23, 2017, 03:57:43 PM »
There's a lovely quote I use a lot:

'I didn't set out to be a single parent, I set out to be the best parent I can be and that hasn't changed'


This is a lovely quote, and so totally true!

I definitely felt just how tough it was those first few months, and have only just got myself out of that funk recently! I often found myself wondering if we'd made the right decision. Every time those thoughts creep in, I remind myself that we weren't effective together anymore, and I firmly believe that we work better as parents apart rather than together, and that our little one will have a happier upbringing if we're not together - and this way me and my ex still get on amicably, which is beneficial for all of us.

 

Single Parent Holidays in the UK and Overseas. Single With Kids offers the widest range of breaks and holidays for single parents, from camping with kids and value breaks through to all inclusive overseas resorts and adventure holidays. Our destinations range from the Lakes through to Lapland, Center Parcs to Tunisia. All Single With Kids Holidays are in group settings with the focus on fun and friendship. Everyone is a single parent family with children aged from babies through to teenagers, and mums and dads from all backgrounds.*Single With Kids Ltd * Greg Street, Stockport SK5 7BR * Telephone 0845 166 8119 *



Copyright © 2014 Single with Kids.
All rights reserved.