Hope you don't mind me joining in. Just an oldie having a look round.
I can imagine it's really hard when you have the kids 24/7 and I cant comment on that.
As a mum that had one night midweek and every Saturday night free I did join a dating site when I was single ( had been for 5 ish years) .
I didn't enjoy it , as you say people arnt all as they seem so my rules to myself and I've recommended my route many times. I never bothered with weeks and hours of text chat or talking On the phone. You call fall for something that isn't real. A face to face meeting is the only way you really know if there is a spark. So my rule was .... Arrange to meet the person on neutral ground , but very clear from the start you'd like to meet them for just an hour for a cuppa/drink etc and see how you get on. If it's good ... Stay longer if you wish or make a plan for a proper date. If it's awful then you've no need to make excuses to leave , an hour was more than enough on pls try of occasions to know that person wasn't for me. I left texted to say thanks but no thanks and then that was that.
I met some truly awful men, smelly, dirty, irritating and just not what they made out to be. To be honest after dating 3 different men I just thought it's not worth the head space and camping season was approaching so I thought I'd just give up till winter lol
Well .... One chap had messaged me just as I made this decision and he made me laugh. A big plus in my book. The profile pic was dark so really has no clue what this guy looked like. But I just thought sod it .... 1 last date.
I'm glad I did. I met my soul mate that day. It took me a long time to truly trust him but eventually I let him knock down the brick wall I built . beleive me that wall was solid !!
Well this man asked me to marry him in April, 3 years after we met. and I said yes !!
Never give up , only you know when the time is right. Be fussy, it's your life. Be truthful and don't play games.
Lisa I'm sure you've tried my hour rule