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Offline Silky

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Teenagers and parties
« on: May 26, 2016, 09:12:55 AM »
My oldest girl is 16 shortly and started to go to parties. No great issue there, she and her friends are fairly sensible and the one time there was a little trouble, they immediately left (and I always pick her up and drop her off)

My question...   I know there's alcohol at the parties. Kiera never takes any but she will have some. Do I send her with some very low alcohol alcopop or cider so I can be sure she's not at the mercy of someone else's potentially stronger concoction?  While I don't want to condone underage drinking and it doesn't feel right buying cider for my girl,  I have to be realistic that it does happen at the parties and I'd prefer to know what's in her glass....

God I hate these dilemmas.  What do you suggest?

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Re: Teenagers and parties
« Reply #1 on: May 26, 2016, 11:41:06 AM »
First off, speak to the host parent in an engaging & non-confrontational manner ... I know you can do that if you try. ;)   Allow that conversation to guide you.

Also, take note of your own child's preferences ... no point in sending her with something she won't drink.

Note: it's not underage drinking at a private party.
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Re: Teenagers and parties
« Reply #2 on: May 26, 2016, 12:19:50 PM »
I'd send her with what you normally drinks - both alcoholic and some water (can be in a plain bottle). I'd also ask the parents what will be supplied and advise that you will be sending K with her own. The problem is when drinks/bottles get put down and others help themselves so does she want to carry stuff around with her?

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Re: Teenagers and parties
« Reply #3 on: May 26, 2016, 07:07:58 PM »
I am really not looking forward to this time with C.  So far it hasn't been his thing, doesn't really like loud music and crowds.

He also has such strong likes and dislikes I am hoping this continues..............doesn't even drink ordinary fizzy drinks.

But in answer to question, I really don't know what I would do  ???
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