Something I came across a year ago and really helped me to understand things or "see" things is when you have a Significant Emotional Event in your life and how it changes the order of your life.
When things are going well, or 'normal' we all have our list of priorities; they are our "cards" that we hold and we have them in an order. So for some of us, our job may be our priority as the money we earn from this allows us to live the life we have. For others, it could be their children, their health, their family.
Then along comes a Significant Emotional Event and all of our "cards" get dropped on the floor during the impact. We quickly gather them up, but they are then in a different order and what was once our priority is no longer our priority and something else is there instead.
My advice would be that it's important to recognise the impact of a S.E.E and how it changes our priorities and that we need to allow for those changes.
One of the stories that helped with the explanation of this theory was of a man/father who worked long hours, was highly successful and earned a large salary. His family had a great life style, but sadly his seven year old child was diagnosed with a terminal illness. The man tried to carry on as normal as his wife coped with the hospital appointments, then one evening the child said to the father "will you still remember me after I've died daddy?" The man explained that it was at that comment he realised he was not around enough for his family and that comment was his S.E.E. He was distraught to think that his child could possibly think he would forget them.
He immediately took unpaid leave from his employment and told his boss that his family were now his No.1 priority over everything else. After a while he returned to work on reduced hours and reduced money, but the luxuries in life were no longer high on his list of priorities either.
When you become a single parent it is a S.E.E and the order of your cards are bound to change. Whatever these changes bring, try not to fight them too much as this will cause more suffering. Accept your emotions are part of the changes of the order of the cards you are holding. Accept the way you lived your life will change from the order of the cards you used to hold to the order of the cards you have now picked up.