I have been a single parent since my daughter was 2. She is now 12 and since her father who was abusive and also not wanting to be a dad Ive been in one other relationship that was also emotionally abusive. We seperated 4 years ago.
I have finally met a man who is not abusive, controlling, jealous who is loving, compassionate and happy for me to do my own things and also has a great relationship with my daughter. We will of been together for 3 years in February.
My predicament I need some advice on is this. We have discussed and have been trying for a child together. He does not have any children of his own. His previous relationship he went for tests and was old his sperm was lazy. So we tried for a year and no luck so I got fertility tests taken to see if I was ovulating and it turns out I am. So we think that it is definatley him with the fertility problems. However he hasnt made any effort to go to GP and get tested.
I feel after so many abusive relationships I have finally broke my cycle and im with a great guy who i can see myself growing old with. But this may come at a price of not being a mum again. When I spoke to a friend who has just become a new mum (a single one at that) she just didnt seem to understand how I was willing to give up on becoming a mum again by choosing love with my partner.
I am lucky enough already to be a mum, and now I see my daughter up and about making her own life and before I know it going off to uni etc. Ive also struggled for many years being on my own with my daughter and yes it is very rewarding but also extremley hard and very very lonely.
Should I choose love over becoming a mum? Or will i regret it.