While we are all broken hes looks rather excited about moving on with his life
Hi again Lorna
Sorry to hear of the, what do the solicitors say ahh yes, "the irretrievable breakdown of your marriage".
What you have to remember is that he is many steps ahead of you. i.e. he has obviously been planning this for a while so in his head he has rehearsed the farewell speech, he has thought and planned about how he is going to move out and when and where he is going to. You, on the otherhand have been hit full head on with what would feel like a cricket ball in the face. Ouch!!! no wonder you are feeling the way that you do. Like most other people you will probably say I didn't see it coming. I had no idea. Probably now if you really sit and think about it I am sure that there were clues but you didn't pick up on them.
I hope by now that you are starting to pull it together a little. Although that will take time. Its a huge rip at the seams of your life and those gaping holes are going to hurt for a long while yet. I tell you this not to be cruel but to warn you and to empathise with you. We have all been there. Even though I initiated the break of my marriage after nearly 20 years it still hurt like hell. I know you have probably heard this a thousand times before but time is a great healer. No, it wont be easy but do you know what? There will come a time, not now (too raw) but at some point in the future when you will wake up without tear stained cheeks, and feel that you can get through the day without crumbling.
Use your friends as support but also post on here. You will get some great advice, tough love even maybe but the one thing that we all have in common is we know what its like to experience heartbreak, we know what its like to be single parents. None of us are here because we chose to be separated/divorced.
Sending you a big hug
PS. Its OK to cry. Its not a weakness and if you want some alone time to do this, the shower is a great place away from the kids.