I will try to keep this brief, I have a 2 and a half year old, seperated from his dad at 8 months pregnant. Due to his personal issues, he has been seeing Josh regularly for about 8 months in a contact centre, we have agreed to move away from this, something which I imagined being slow. He has come to me today with the question can he take Josh on holiday for a weekend, with his family including other children, at the start of august. Now I am left with the dilemma that I am split on. Do I take the plunge and go straight to overnights, after all you can never be sure about these things or do I stick to the original plan. Josh loves his dad and is confident around people he knows, so do not have many doubts about him coping with it, I won't have to keep making judgement calls about when and how we move forward and although josh has a speech delay he will speak to me in his own way about what has happened and knows emotions and stuff so I do think in a limited way would be able to speak up if their were issues. This is important as their is a history of recreation over use of drugs(I was their when I got pregnant and stopped, which he claims to have done too, so can't really argue about the past here) and he does have a temper, never directed at me and I am doubtful about it being directed at josh. He has been great with Josh, maybe not always the way I would but it is not all about me.
My question is I suppose, has anyone taken the plunge like this and been bitten or had it work for them. It really does feel like why drag it out the way I planned but do worry he is manipulating with the purpose of getting more. But I gotta do it at some point so why not now