I'm almost at a point where I had forgotten to do this but I'd like to extend a warm thank you to everyone who has given input to my previous threads.
Two nights ago was the anniversary of my moving out of the house I shared with my ex and striking out on my own with the two children, who were two and 6 at the time.
April 17th three years ago was the day I moved into a house on my own with the little ones after 10 years with a man I never married but was committed to. Even though I knew the relationship was doomed. And at the time I had no real job, no money, no family nearby and so I felt as though I had no way out. He was keen for me to stay in the house (it was big enough for both he and I to have a floor each, with separate living, cooking, bathing and sleeping space and a room for the kids) but really he was just after a semblance of normal life with the freedom to do as he pleased.
It was so hard for me to leave and even now people question why I live in the same street but really that's down to schools, friends, support and me knowing that if I lived elsewhere the kids wouldn't get the access to their dad that they have now. And it was the best thing I ever did.
The support I got from people here, both online and then chatting in real life on camping trips was awesome. There was no-one in my circle of friends who had been through it and so the kicks up the arse I got here were (and are) of great value.
For those of you still living in the same space as your ex, it took me 8 months to get my act together and move out. I'm not friends with my ex (he likes to think otherwise but hey ho) but he has easy access to his children and still doesn't go for 50/50 care.
But the point of this post is to say thank you to everyone who gave me advice (whether I wanted it or not) and who supported me in the dark days. And if you're at the new Forest camp, come and say hi!