Thanks everyone for your lovely replies, the amazing thing about this forum is that even though people have their own problems going on they still take time to offer support to others, it's really appreciated.
I think I've just found the avoidance thing a bit strange, none of my comments have been aimed at anyone from this site btw, it's more from local friends and family. Even my parents who we saw on Friday afternoon. We went to see them and I'd asked if it was ok to leave G with them for an hour max while I popped to a store near them to get at Xmas present for G so she wouldn't see it. It was fine and then when back we stayed for a cuppa and for a couple of hours. It was getting on so at 4pm ish I said we'd have to make a move soon to get back to get tea on, more chatting and all of a sudden it's 4.45pm so I'm now gathering stuff up and saying we really need to get on as G'll be hungry soon. Not once did they ask if we wanted to stop with them for tea. And not once did either of them ask how we were doing. G had said not long after arriving that "Mummy has been sad because of Daddy" and I'd mentioned in passing that I'm tired because of not sleeping well still and still neither of them commented on any of it. I just find it really bizarre and compare it to how I think I'd react if it were Georgia going through similar in years to come...
I think it's going to need to be me that takes the initiative if i want to see people but then I don't want to feel like I'm pushing us on people. Also from a selfish point of view I don't see why I should be having to do all the running under these circumstances. My brother is a chef and he lives 2 roundabouts away, he drives past my village 4 times a day as he does split shifts and had said middle of last week in a text message "I'll call you soon" Has he? No. He also, given his trade, said that a way he could help would maybe be to cook some batches of stuff for us and drop it off, lovely, has he? No. I just feel that people are quick to offer things but often there's no follow through after. I'm not going to call him and ask "could you make a couple of cottage pies for my freezer please?" but if he did actually bring something round it would be really appreciated.
Kendra, thanks for the offers and I may take you up on them. I have the Kubler-Ross book as it's a Nursing text for the palliative care element but I've lent it to a friend who's currently digging it out for me to re-read. I would love to do the farm trip but will have to see where the finances are nearer the time.
Sarah, you are an absolute star and I love you to bits. Thank you for all your support and advice, especially with all you have going on anyway. You are fast catching up with my best mate in terms of 'rock' status.
I will get round to calling everyone that has given numbers (esp Laura & Mel, thank you) and offered a place to visit, thank you and Lou, you're high on my call list I promise, I've not forgotten you x x x
Rach, you are spot on regarding prioritising the urgent stuff and saying pooh to everyone else, I need to stop worrying about other people and start looking after myself and Georgia first.
We had G's half brother (12) and his Mum over for sunday lunch today, really nice to see them and we'll hopefully make it a regular thing at each others houses so the kids still see each other regularly, I said to her today that we'll get them camping with us at some point too but I don't think she's a natural camper, I'll work on her :-)
Leigh, thanks for the legal info and yes it's familiar stuff but was worth an ask anyway, appreciated. I'm actually going to see a solicitor next week hopefully, one that's affiliated to my best mate and her family, he's offered to have a coffee with us both to go over the basics and at least let me know my options with regard to trusts etc and there's no charge.
Chrissie & Richard, thank you for providing us all with this forum that enables this support to take place, for the card you sent us, the messages and for your advice. I've now read through the bereavement advice section and it's very good.
Am off to bed now, not sleeping well still and I suppose being on here at midnight won't really help with that....