There’s a long list of things you should never say to a single parent and I bet we’ve heard them all…..and probably smiled sweetly through gritted teeth. The list below usually ends up as one of my greatest rants, even though they’re always said with the best of meaning:
1. “My partner’s always away working, I’m just like a single parent.”
Of course you are. Apart from the fact you’ve someone to share the bills, the emotional load, someone to discuss your children / issues / news with. Someone who will be home in between to relieve you of the parenting. Apart from those major differences, it’s exactly the same.
2. “It must be difficult to find someone to take on the kids“
I can’t repeat the answer to this one 😉
3. “Why are you single?“
Because watching your relationship with your partner is enough to put me off for life.
Because the relationship I had with my partner was enough to put me off for life.
Because no one has convinced me otherwise.
Because I love it?
4. “You’ll find someone soon“
Don’t threaten us.
Is it really inconceivable that someone can actually be happy single? Or indeed choose to be so? Or is it only those of us who’ve lived and loved ‘the other side’ that know the secret?
5. (When hearing you’re a single parent) “Oh, I’m sorry to hear that“
Why exactly? I’m not.
Perhaps I’m becoming too radical / evangelical with age …..or perhaps I’ve just heard them all one too many times.