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Offline The Naughtiest Girl

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Re: Forum privacy & private messaging
« Reply #40 on: October 16, 2009, 07:21:57 AM »
People can still use the forum without paying!

If people are having local meets they still can do this without paying

I have arranged meets and not had people phone numbers, you have an agrrement on the thread abot what time to meet and I have turned up with a balloon or another obvious marker to identify who I was.My very first meet ever I got lost and did have to ask someone if they were SWK ( they were), it was no worse than being lost and having to ask a stranger diretions

If people do want the privelege of PM ing then yes 10p a day is a charge for that which is infinetly cheaper than petrol ty get to a local meet, is cheaper than the cost of electricity to have the forum on.

Nothing is free and do not feel that C and R should provide a free service

I get paid for what I do as I have bills and mortgage etc like C and R
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Re: Forum privacy & private messaging
« Reply #41 on: October 16, 2009, 07:39:54 AM »
I haven't had any problems on SWK with spam, unsolicited email or exes.  Am I in a tiny minority?

Hi DL, It doesn't matter whether you're the minority or majority, there are a number of people who have been pursued by their exes - and others - on here. It wasn't so long ago that there was a thread on the Private Board asking if the forum should be for members only (not instigated by me). Should we hold back on protecting these people simply because some others don't want to pay? As online publishers we have an obligation to protect our members where possible and we can only do this by instigating the current changes.

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  And anyway, what would happen if an ex paid their membership and started hassling another member?  So you know where they live.  Could they then be prosecuted?  Or will you just send the boys round?  ;)
We can block them in every which way and prevent them using the forum or club in its entirety, and even from reading the forum.

You may seek to make light of this DL, but in essence it is an issue for some people and not very nice when you seek support here and find harassment instead. Some have been quite public about the fact they've been pursued (you may have seem some of the threads?), many contact us privately. In a forum for single parents it's unfortunately only natural that this will happen from time to time and it's our duty to try and counteract this in whatever ways we can.

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  I think though, at £32 a year, it would put a lot of people off joining just for the forum. 

It hasn't put people off using the forum (or no one noticeable). As Rachel points out, people can still use the forum, they simply don't have access to some functions.


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  (Some of us are counting every penny). 
We're both single parents and having not had a salary since January I can well and truly identify with that DL.

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Which is why I suggested earlier about £5 a year for forum use. 
There are only 2 of us running the club and unfortunately simply don't have time to program and  construct alternative layers of membership. These are also highly likely to confuse members and we're likely to find that if people don't want to pay 10p a day, they're probably not likely to pay at all anyway.

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I would have found it an extremely daunting prospect (and I know others who feel the same way) and would rather have looked for another site where it wasn't a "privilege" to meet other people. 

Mumsnet - arguably the biggest forum for parents does not have a pm facility such as ours but it doesn't put people off ?  Again as Rach has pointed out, people can still go to meets whether they pm or not, it's hardly a priviledge that's been removed. In fact most people that come along to the Manchester pub meet DON'T contact me in advance, but simply follow the clear instructions and meeting time given on the forum. The last Manchester meet was one of our largest yet with around 60 there, many of those newcomers too.


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Please don't come back and say I could have paid £3 for the first month to give me a chance to get people's numbers, and then cancel subsequent payments.  I believe this has repercussions.
 
If people chop and change, using membership only for a holiday then cancelling afterwards then they can only rejoin using annual membership. Which actually is only 8.5p a month... ;)

I don't think there's any argument here ? (The last debate on this pretty much exhausted it I think, with the vast majority of members vociferously in support of this)

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« Last Edit: October 16, 2009, 09:52:47 AM by Silky »
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Re: Forum privacy & private messaging
« Reply #42 on: October 16, 2009, 07:45:01 AM »
p.s. As for spam - we've had the Nigerian Christian seeking to save his wife and humanity but needing a little financial help, we were also besieged by porn in July.  Not nice.
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Re: Forum privacy & private messaging
« Reply #43 on: October 16, 2009, 07:46:54 AM »
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haven't had any problems on SWK with spam, unsolicited email or exes.  Am I in a tiny minority?

Nor have I but then I am in an extremely lucky situation that Sophie's biological thing doesn't give a toss, I know of a few people that have had problems though but I still don't have any problem with paying the membership.

 

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