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Title: 2 kids, pregnant and now single!
Post by: xx30xx on November 10, 2012, 09:14:19 PM
hi, i have a 2yr old, a 3yr old and i am pregnant........and alone! just looking for some advice or help on handling break ups as i am finding this a really difficult time.
ex left about a month ago it has been a long time coming, he lied about everything, and he just thought that i should accept that. i could not take it anymore and asked him to leave, i feel that deep down i have 100% made the right decision. just feeling pretty low and lonely atm.
doesnt help that he finds it so easy to forget about his responsibilities.
Title: Re: 2 kids, pregnant and now single!
Post by: gemini on November 10, 2012, 09:39:09 PM
You have come to the right place for support.
There are lots of meets and also the forum is a great place to vent and ask for advice.
What area are you in?
It sounds like you know you have made the right decision, although it is hard to face it especially with being pregnant and having 2 young ones.
Keep strong and keep posting, good luck xx
Title: Re: 2 kids, pregnant and now single!
Post by: Deborah43 on November 10, 2012, 11:28:33 PM
It's a strong woman that can face it alone so give yourself a big big up.  In my experience it's best to be alone and coping than in a relationship where you feel unhappy, depressed, distressed and demeaned because of the lying you experience.

This forum will be a great support, lots of positive strong people here (even the ones that don't know they're strong) xx
Title: Re: 2 kids, pregnant and now single!
Post by: lukesdad on November 11, 2012, 03:22:11 PM
As Gemini said, you have come to the right place.

I split with my ex 5 months ago and not long after the split, I found this site and even though I don't post or visit this site as much these days, it has/was/is a great place to be to find help/support & encouragement.

Yes you are in pain and feel lost and alone but that old adage "its gets easier day by day" is sooooo true! I felt lost being a single dad with full residency of my 3 year old but I have met some wonderful people on this site and some I like to call friends now.

Chin up xx30xx, it will get better...

Feel free to rant, ask advice or just seek support.

D x
Title: Re: 2 kids, pregnant and now single!
Post by: xx30xx on November 11, 2012, 08:59:20 PM
Thanks for the kind replies, this is all pretty new to me and wasnt really expecting to get any kind of response.
I suppose the only thing that i can do is stay strong :) i have two beautiful girls and a new baby to think of, just find it hard to stay positive at times,and feel like i am putting on a brave face so that others dont see how much i am actually hurting! Feels good to be able to come on here and get things off my chest a little though
Title: Re: 2 kids, pregnant and now single!
Post by: STH on November 11, 2012, 10:20:59 PM
Hi xx,

obviously (!) I can't relate to your situation - but I have been reading posts on the forum for what seems like ages, and I know that there have been, and are, other people who have said very similar things.  The forum is really good because if you post you may well get replies not only from people who can empathise, but also from people who look at things from a different perspective,and help you that way.

Good luck!

Title: Re: 2 kids, pregnant and now single!
Post by: LittleRedRue on November 18, 2012, 11:44:42 PM
Hi xx30xx

I'm new here too. Cushion Plumper gave me the link to your post as my husband left a month ago and now it's just me, my 7 month old little girl and an over excited dog who is harder to care for than my daughter!

Although our situations aren't exactly the same, I can understand your feelings as I am currently feeling the same way. Very few people plan to be a single parent, so when it happens, it can really try to suck the life out of you. But we won't let it take us!!! This site shows there is a life out there for us and I'm sure we will find lots of support and make many friends on here.

After all, at some point, everyone here male or female has been through our situation and come out the other side. That's the way I see it.

If you want to chat about anything. I'm here too

Title: Re: 2 kids, pregnant and now single!
Post by: debs2702 on November 19, 2012, 01:07:04 AM
Aw that's nice, I can see a lovely friendship developing between the two of you.  I can go and make my hot chocolate now   ;) and go to bed smiling.

Title: Re: 2 kids, pregnant and now single!
Post by: georgie_3 on November 19, 2012, 11:03:19 PM

I have three kids, not quite so young (7, 4, 2). I nearly left whilst pregnant, but didn't until my youngest had just turned one!

I hope that you are getting alot of support from your midwife, there are specialist midwifes to help stressed out mums to be!

Also, sure start will be a great source of support with your toddlers!!

I'm sure that you will find lots of help and support on here, and will make some good friends.  I've only been on here about 4months, but feel so much better for it!
It certainly fills the nights in a little!

Good luck with your pregnancy.

Take care