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Help & Support => Separation & Divorce => Topic started by: carolea on January 27, 2012, 10:38:57 PM

Title: THANK YOU ALL
Post by: carolea on January 27, 2012, 10:38:57 PM
Hi everyone.  I wuld just like to thank all of you who took the time to read my ramblings over the last 18 months.
If it wasnt for the invaluable advice I recieved over and over again, I dread to think what would have happened.
Its now almost 18 months since my ex walked out for another woman, leaving me devastated and with an eight year old son to look after.  I remember reading all your advice thinking "How can they know how I feel, this is different from all the other stories I had read, this was impossible to ever recover from.
Day after day I got great advice, some of which I took no notice of at the time, however, as promised I did recover and move on.
I have discovered a person in me who I didnt know exsisted.  Im more sympathetic towards people, kinder and generally a nicer person thanks to what I went through.
What was the worst thing to happen to me turned in to the best.  My son and I are extremely happy now.  We love living alone and my new found freedom is fantastic.
Im stronger, more independant and totally happy with my life.  My fantastic friends have supported me through this and for this Im eternally grateful
I was recently talking to a friend now going through a breakup and Iv advised her to take a look at this site because I know she will get fantastic advice from people who have been through the same thing.

My ex tried to get me back with o success and he is now stuck in a relationship he doesnt want  ;D
Me, Im now dating a lovely man, 12 years younger than me  ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D


Thank you all again
Carol x
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Post by: Dora on January 27, 2012, 10:41:21 PM
Fab to hear! x
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Post by: helencitauk on January 27, 2012, 10:47:13 PM
Ditto Dora! x
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Post by: Happimamma on January 28, 2012, 02:29:14 AM
That's Brilliant!  Happy, happy days :-)

Kendra x
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Post by: Sujo on January 28, 2012, 08:35:04 AM
Brilliant news ..... your story is an inspiration to many others  ;D
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Post by: toot on January 28, 2012, 08:42:10 AM
thats brill news :)
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Post by: zachsmama on January 28, 2012, 09:30:04 AM
Happy days - what an inspiration!!!   ;D ;D
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Post by: Ms_wormwood on January 29, 2012, 03:48:40 PM
I'm so happy for you. (if ever so jealous).

You are like a posterwoman for this site!
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Post by: Deborah43 on January 29, 2012, 05:15:15 PM
Good for you Carolea  ;D
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Post by: LCSS on January 29, 2012, 08:27:00 PM
Enjoy !
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Post by: cheesecake on January 29, 2012, 09:55:30 PM
Fabulous :)
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Post by: carolea on January 29, 2012, 10:23:44 PM
Thank you for your lovely replies it means a lot to me.  You people on this site are fantastic, ready to give advice and sympathy when its most needed and pleased for each other when things start to imrove x
I cant believe the difference in myself now, Im a whole new person  :)
And its all thanks to this site and the advice I recieved day after day while I was ging on and on about my story.
It is so great to realise that when I was told I would move on I did.  It was excruitiating at the time and I was on my knees in pain but I did.
I even swore myself off men for life and I meant it but now 16 months later my heart has softened and Im really happy,
When you go through a break up you believe no one will ever love yu like your ex and that your life is all but over but Iv learnt that it all pales in to significance as time goes by.
Im glad I waited 16 months to meet this lovely man because if it happened a while back it would have just been a distraction to get me through the breakup.
Iv cried, begged, phoned, pleaded, got angry, got very depressed and almost gave up but now Im happy, carefree, enjoying my life with my beautiful son.
Its great to see my exs face when he sees the new improved me.  He looks like a withered old man to me now  ;D  Maybe that has got something to do with my 30 year old boyfriend  ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D
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Post by: mikeyc on March 21, 2012, 07:49:08 AM
It's fair to say that the Swk family is amazing.
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Post by: mikeiom2 on April 04, 2012, 09:47:36 AM
Still hope then for all of us!!
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Post by: Laura19817 on December 01, 2012, 10:07:47 PM
I'm hoping your situation rubs off on me. I need to be happy and it's 2.5 years on for me.
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Post by: georgie_3 on December 02, 2012, 11:38:24 AM
Wow!!
Thats all great to hear, n rings quite a few bells for most of us I'm sure!!
I echo what you say about having to be in the right place/state of mind to take on a new relationship!!
It's great when you are reminded how great life can be (however difficult it can sometimes be!).  :-*
Good luck to you in this new chapter your starting in your life.

Georgie
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Post by: lyndsey999 on January 31, 2013, 07:44:46 AM
Another great story..

At the time you feel so low and cant see life any different but me and you both are better off now than ever and wonder/wish the ex had left sooner to prevent those wasted years.  Good luck to you and your son keep that light shining so others can have some.  well done you live life today like its your last.xx
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Post by: BeckyK on April 06, 2013, 12:49:11 PM
I hope I will be in the same situation as you in 18 months time x
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Post by: carolea on April 06, 2013, 10:47:04 PM
I think you will be fine in 18 months time from now. It seems a long way off but believe me, even when you dont feel your making progress, each day your healing a tiny bit.
Iremember saying to a good friend of mine 8 days after my ex left, "I cant believe Im still crying and he has been gone over a week" !  Little did I know what lay ahead for the next 16 months.
But I can honestly say it has been the making of me. Im stronger emotionally, if you can get through a breakup, you can get through anything.
I recently broke my ankle and I can say hand on heart, the pain of the breakup was much more painful. Give me a broken ankle any day  ;D
Just take each day one at a time. Treat yourself like you are a princess. Do anything to keep yourself busy but dont overdo it. I used to try to cram loads of activities in to occupy my mind but I got exhausted as I felt I was running away from myself.  Plenty of sleep, which I know isnt always easy, eat well and dont forget you will get through this and you will look back and smile.
Carol xx
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Post by: hippychick01 on January 05, 2014, 05:36:19 PM
I love this thread... very inspiring thankyou :)
x
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Post by: debs2702 on January 05, 2014, 11:30:48 PM
That's excellent news, really happy for you.  As I always say when one door closes..... another opens.   ;D
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Post by: Mich123 on April 28, 2016, 09:49:55 AM
Wow, what an amazing inspirational story. I've been single for 19months and although I'm not completely happy yet, I'm definitely a stronger person. Just need a 30year old toy boy   ;)
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Post by: Silky on November 26, 2018, 02:00:13 PM
Just reading back through some old posts and this one stood out. STILL my favourite of all time.
I haven't seen or heard of CaroleA for a while but I do hope she's doing well and continuing to spread the word - there IS life after a break up.

Silky x